Questionable Kinks: The Gangbang & Reverse Gangbang

All those dicks around you. You’re a dirty cock slut & you know it. The more the merrier. Maybe you’re a white woman with a fantasy for five big black cocks circling around you, filling your entire body: Pussy, asshole, mouth, and one in each hand while one guy waits his turn masturbating to your sluttyness. Maybe you’re a kinky slut who wants all the colours of the rainbow: a black one, a white one, a brown one, a yellow one, a purple one, the one that looks like an alien tentacle. You dirty, dirty, dirty cock slut.

Are you wet thinking about it?

“OH MY FUCKING GOD! HOW MANY MORE TITS AND ASS CHEEKS CAN I FIT ON MY BODY” you think to yourself as six girls swarm you with their perfectly sized female bodies. You choose; what bodies do you find perfect? Tight bodies, voluptuous bodies, black bodies, athletic bodies, lean bodies. You’re visual fantasy right now, you choose!

I do not have real life experience of a gangbang or reverse gangbang. After reading stories on Quora & Reddit, my own personal understanding of human sexual nature, and vicarious knowledge that I have attained from industry professionals within sex, psychology, and relationships; I would like to discuss how & why these kink dynamics can be appealing to both men & woman, and talk about the hot debate of promiscuity from the modern day population and if you could have a closed/ monogamous relationship and still enjoy these kinks.

Before we start, this must be emphasised and will continue to be emphasised throughout the blog. There is a huge difference between a CONSENSUAL gangbang, and a nonconsensual rape bang. You can have a gangbang where the submissive relinquishes control completely within the confines of the boundaries that are respected by the tops. Or you can commit one of the worst imaginable crimes and have one of the worst experiences where someone is raped by people who have no consent. Please if you or anyone you know has experienced such horrific trauma do not interrupt what is said within this blog as a promotion for violence, or such horrific acts. This is a kink that when executed correctly can be fun for all involved. Just like mentioned already in previous ‘Questionable Kinks’ blogs this kink is not for everyone. Just like some people like dogs, some like cats, some like reptiles. Some people are vegan, some people are carnivores, some people just eat food. Just as some people are Christians, some people are Muslim, and some people are Buddhist.

You may read this and know within yourself that you will never want to explore this kink. I am a firm believer when it comes to the world of kink that you do not always need to try something to know if you like it or not. Should you be someone who does have this fantasy or fantasies around this kink then always be safe, sane, and consensual. Having those open & honest conversations with those involved, setting boundaries, and using safe words are paramount to a HEALHTY, FUN, SAFE experience.

What is the difference between a gangbang & a reverse gangbang? Very simply put a gangbang is three or more men sexually pleasuring one woman. A reverse gangbang is three or more women sexually pleasuring one man. Usually within this kink there is also a higher level of the power exchange we talk about, where the three or more obviously have the power over the one. Though in a consensual environment this is where the submissive or bottom role has the power. The person who has the bottom role may give permission for the tops to throw them around, call them selective names, and to not stop unless the word red is used. But may disallow anal, hair pulling or may even disallow certain words from being used e.g. cunt, piece of shit, filthy grimy whore etc. The tops then have a responsibility to follow such rules. Depending on the exact situation and the dynamic these boundaries and rules may be discussed the weeks and days leading up to the event with someone leading the gang, or might just be a good conversation for five to ten minutes before the commencement of the act. Just because a guy wants to submit to a gang of women does not mean that he does not have limits & boundaries. Just because the woman wants to submit to a gang of men does not mean she has a rape fantasy.

The gangbang and why would someone participate?

For some woman it may be as simple as she loves cock, the more the merrier, her kink and fantasy is to just have as much cock around her to suck, jerk and fuck. No consensual rape fantasy, just her pretty body and a gang of cocks. She may appear innocent, she may be married, she may be single, she may have a great deal of control and be quite demure with putting her thoughts into reality, but she loves cock. And so the thought of pleasuring a gang of cocks at once get’s her pussy wetter than an active water slide. She may never act on these impulses, she may never have the opportunity too, but in the back of her mind she has that perverted thought. This is quite a simple thought to digest because if men have thoughts about having as many titties in their face at one time, why would some women not have the thoughts of having as much dick on their face at one time.

She may very well have the rape fantasy of a group of men having their way with her. What would it be like to have no control? What would she be able to do if she said no and those men did not listen? Would she fight back and resist until she had a moment of freedom to run away or would she give in and just let the gang have their way and try to enjoy it? That sounds fucked up, and is the thought processes of some woman. This consensual nonconsensual ‘rape’ FANTASY may be confusing to some, so let’s delve into it from a historically biological point of view.

I intend to explain how a woman’s deep desire to succumb to the gang is also directly linked to the reason men want to be the gang. She will do whatever she needs to survive and keep her offspring alive, maybe if she submits they will protect her; He wants to destroy, conquer and take ownership of her body.

Throughout time women have typically been the physically weaker of the two – men & women. A full grown, athletic man is biologically stronger than a full-grown athletic woman. If you put the best male basketballers in the world against the best female basketballers in the world, on a court and played standard basketball the men would most likely win – could you imagine the full force of someone like Lebron James going for a dunk, the women wouldn’t stand a chance. If you put the best male swimmer in the world against the best female swimmer in the world, the male will mostly likely win – according to chat GPT the current female world record for the 100 metre freestyle is 51.71 seconds, set in 2016 by Sarah Sjostrom from Sweden; the current male world record for the 100 metre freestyle is 46.91 seconds, set in 2009 by Cesar Cielo; that is seven years apart and still there is a five second difference which is huge within a pool. If you put Francis Ngannou’s a heavyweight UFC champion against the heaviest weight category female UFC champion Amanda Nunes, the chances of Francis winning are quite high. If there were no rules and it was a fight to the death Amanda Nunes might actually stand a better chance if she knew how to fight to Francis weaknesses. She is more agile, she could probably still put someone the size of Francis on the ground if her life depended on it, and she would be cunning. Science says that the male body has developed in a more physically capable way, where the females became more intellectually and socially capable. For a long time the male brain has been wired to conquer, fight, and destroy; while the female’s brain has been wired to analyse, empathise, and keep order when necessary. If you as a man cannot overpower, outthink, or be more capable than your woman in any way than how can she expect you to provide and protect her. This overpowering could be as simple, and fun as picking her up and throwing her around the bed; she laughs, she giggles, it’s fun, she loves it, she feels your strength. Outthink, you have a date night once a month, have you made reservations? Do you know where you want to eat? Do you know what food she likes to eat without asking anymore? How are you going to get there? This demonstrates your competency to plan and think ahead, if you can’t plan something as simple as good date night how can you be expected to work with her to raise a good, strong family household. “We don’t want kids”, okay how will the woman be able to trust that the man could plan a vacation to Japan together, or plan anything of value together if he can’t even get something as simple as a date night together. She wants to feel a mans strength, she wants to see his competency. What about the man testing the woman’s capabilities? I can’t answer that for you sorry, if you do the right internal work you will be able to define what you believe to be a good, strong, capable, loyal woman. This all being said I would like to take a moment to demonstrate how cunning, calculated and strong some women can be, educating some one way thinkers that woman are not just this soft, little, innocent being that will just do as they’re told or follow a bad leader. In ancient times there were some women who were captured and forced to be the new kings slave, these women would play along as long as they needed, earn the trust of their ‘new lord’ and then execute him at the perfect moment, avenging the man or tribe she once belonged too. Women may be physically less capable than man on a lot of occasions, but she can manipulate and seduce man in ways unimagined. After one year of sleeping in a bed together the lustful man finally trusts that this woman has now fallen in love with his reign & power, he goes to sleep easily after some sex that feels real. The captured woman slits the kings throat and watches him suffocate on his own blood. It’s violent, it’s strategic, it’s barbaric but a good woman is not to be fucked with. A good woman is not a snowflake, a good woman will not tolerate your bullshit, and if you just so happen to marry a good woman but do not meet your actions with your words she may very well go else where to have those needs met while she keeps you tied to her through law. Good women are strong, capable, and intelligent.

Should you be a young man reading this and think to yourself, “Fuck me, way to put the pressure on me” that’s okay, pressure is good. Additionally a good woman will see when a man is genuinely trying, improving and learning. You may not be a black belt in karate, you may not be able to start a fortune 500 company, but you could punch someone in the face if you needed too, and you have some capacity to think for yourself and about others.

I type all of this to demonstrate my level of knowledge of female & male human nature. We will evolve, there is such thing as a healthy equality, women are competitive, men can think for themselves, women can bring in more money than the man and still be happy, some men may not date a woman unless she has her own job or career. Good men have the capacity to dominate, destroy, and conquer; Good woman are not meek, stupid, or incapable of thinking for themselves. Men & women are not the same though.

Where this rape gangbang fantasy stems from is the thought of “what would I do if….” fight, flight, freeze. Your objective in a real-life dangerous situation may just be to survive, is it easier to give the gang what they want and try to find some fucked up pleasure in the situation? Are you willing to risk your own life, die with honour and fight your way out of the situation? Can you calculate a way out of the situation that means you may not have to go through with the entire act? Within the consensual non-consensual gangbang FANTASY, you as the woman are most likely succumbing to the first question. This gang want to take you and devour you, and so to make the process less painful for yourself it may seem most logical to just go with the flow. Maybe you are extremely kinky and within a consensual nonconsensual realm you want to put up a fight, and want to see, feel and experience just how strong these men are. Maybe you’re just a perverted slut deep down and want to know what it feels like to have men want your body so much they are willing to commit one of the most horrific crimes someone can do, but you want it without all the trauma and real violence that comes with real rape; and with some ice cream and cuddles, while watching Netflix for the come down.

GENERALLY, women have enjoyed submitting and following man. GENERALLY, women have seeked protection from men when in danger. Maybe if she gives the gang what they want, they will give her what she wants, protection and security. If a group of violent men had a well-behaved sex slave they would most likely protect her with their life. Forget a violent group of men; if any good man had a well behaved kinky ‘sex slave’ who would suck his cock on command, follows orders and is not the most obnoxious, bratty, annoying pain in his ass, he will most likely protect her with his life. Think ‘50 shades of Grey’; Mr. Grey has an obedient, submissive, who is willing to try just about anything because she is a single virgin and this sexy, handsome, billionaire, who lives in the penthouse of New York, who can fly helicopters wants to possess her, he wants only her, he is willing to stalk and follow her every move. It’s fucked up and yet so many wives and women found themselves touching, exploring and imagining they were the ones who were Anastasia. I only use ’50 Shades of Grey’ because it is a great example of woman wanting the man who has the capacity to be barbaric, the capacity to take charge, the capacity to go after what he wants, and the capacity to protect.

For the men who are interested in this kink, they are simply playing at their biological nature to destroy, conquer, and possess. Obviously there are a lot of modern day men who might be quite demure, though they themselves are aware of this violent, destructive nature that they possess and know the amount of fun that can be had within a CONSENUAL realm. If he cares for this come slut appropriately, she may be his personal ‘sex slave’ forever. She knows he has the capacity to be ruthless, to be barbaric, and to take what he wants; she knows if someone threatened her life he would protect her. This sounds crazy but it’s true, if you as a man show your barbaric nature consensually within the bedroom by throwing her around, pulling her hair, and maneuvering her into different positions without saying, “Should we try doggy now” like a whiny little bitch than she will have a sense that you can protect her. That all being said, this same man, a respectful man, a gentleman, also knows that doing this to an unwilling participant is completely wrong and is one of the worst things a man could do to a woman.

LEXX THIS CRAZY, YOU ARE CRAZY! YOU ARE PROMOTING VIOLENCE, RAPE, AND MISOGYNY.

I was working a regular job with this guy once, and he had some stories to share. He told me about some of the things that some groups of people make other people do to become initiated to this said group. Apparently a woman once presented herself to this group and told the men that she could take every single one of them right there.

If a woman approaches most males and says, “Fuck me like a whore, I want to be your dirty slut, fill my every hole” the males brain will go wild with anticipation. Even a fairly meek man may think, “Are you crazy, I will fuck the shit out of you like I did Abella Danger last night with my hand” (she is a Porn star for those unaware of the reference), meanwhile he may verbally say, “I’m okay thank you”. So when a woman walks up to a group of men who have the capacity for violence and says, “Fuck me like a whore, I want to be your dirty slut, fill my every hole” she will generally receive exactly what you asked for. That being said, just as women would rather ‘be stuck in the woods alone with a bear over a man’, there are plenty of men who would also rather be stuck in the woods with a bear than a female. I give this example to illustrate that a lot of women want to feel protected; they want a man or group of men to say that we will protect you. Again, this may sound fucked up but a man who has the capacity to be ruthless in the bedroom with his woman demonstrates his capacity for violence and affection for her simultaneously. He or they could tare her apart right now, they could trample her, he could do horrible things to her, but he or they control themselves and provide the overpowering and/ or ‘masochistic’ pleasure she desires.

When you look at history, look at the fact we have sadists & masochists, look at the fact we have leaders who order people to death & followers who will serve those leaders until their last breath; it is easy to see why & how some women & men may fantasise this kink.

This is quite dark for a lot of people, and some people just will not understand. Because all that you can think about is a woman being violated, and sexually harmed. Which is fair enough, the idea is quite dark and unless you have the emotional intelligence and sexual intelligence to understand the darker sides of psychology then I recommend staying clear of this kink completely…. Because otherwise you may put yourself and/ or others in serious danger. If no one is controlling the gang, or boundaries are not discussed things can turn south quickly.

The reverse gangbang and why would someone participate?

The ultimate role reversal! the ultimate power exchange!

Like we previously discussed the man has traditionally held the ‘power’ position within society; he has been viewed as the one with more physical capabilities; he has typically been viewed as the one that enforces order through violence, through tyranny, and his capacity to conquer. So to have that role reversed and submit to a gang of women would be extremely alluring to both man & woman. He does not have to think, he does not have to fight, he just let’s himself go into the control of the divine feminine. She has the opportunity to order, enforce, and conquer her man

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He is usually the big bad guy, he is the one that tells people what to do, he is the one that leads his family. Now he has the opportunity to let go of all that control, he doesn’t have to make decisions, he doesn’t have to think, he doesn’t have to lead; just follow and do as he is told. And for the men who enjoy following others, this is just doing what they already enjoy doing, being a good follower and doing as the girls tell them to do.

Now just because you are a guy, doesn’t mean you don’t have boundaries. You still have every right to discuss what is and what is not acceptable, you may not let anything up your ass, you may not enjoy having your mouth gagged or hands tethered, maybe you won’t wear leather. Maybe you’re a total submissive masochist who wants the group of girls to just fuck you like the little bitch you never show the world, “Gag my mouth, tie my hands, spank my ass cheeks, and shove an eight inch dildo deep into my asshole while I try scream you’re my mummy, you’re my mummy, you’re my mummy”. You dirty, dirty boy.

There are also very few single, heterosexual men I know who would turn down a reverse gangbang. A gang of boobs, a gang of ass cheeks, a gang of pussy, a gang of moans, like come on; if you’re a bisexual or heterosexual man would agree with me when I say that it would be extremely difficult to turn down all that ass, and all those sexy bodies if a gang of girls came up to you and said, “We want you now, be a good boy and do as you’re told!” Maybe not though, maybe you freeze and say no. I have a couple memories where I froze and said no to a sexual encounter. And it is because of these encounters that I know what I would be saying in this situation if I were single.

What about the girls, why would girls want to gang up on one boy? Um do I really need to answer this? In the spirit of good fun do you as a woman believe you would have pleasure ganging up on one man sexually? If you were single and with a group of good girlfriends would you enjoy making a bitch out of a consensual man? The ultimate power exchange for a woman! It is this reversal of power that I believe would appeal to women interested in this kink.

Could you have a closed relationship or monogamous relationship and enjoy this kink?

VERY RARELY!

I say very rarely because one in a hundred million couples or throuples might know how to navigate this style of kink fun. Most closed or monogamous relationships would not be able to handle this type of sexual fun and here is why I believe so. In the words of Sadia Khan, “Most modern day men are dumb”. If you’re nuance to group sessions and kink with a partner, and your girlfriend says okay let’s do a gangbang, I would argue that a large portion of guys would most likely invite the boys over and start banging. You’re mates now might believe they have the freedom to slap your girlfriends ass whenever they please, maybe they might try slide into her dm’s without your knowing, maybe a few of your mates are over for drinks, you leave the room for a shower or something and now those mates are tagging each other in & out of a gangbang without you. Have you set boundaries to both your girl(s) and gang members. Because if boundaries are not discussed your woman will most likely think that she is openly allowed to be slapped on the booty by your gang ‘mate’; and she may think there are no issues having a threesome while you’re in the shower. Even if boundaries have been discussed can you really trust your ‘boys’ to never make a move again, can you really trust your girl(s) to be one-hundred percent faithful, would your girl(s) tell you if one of the guys did try to make a surreptitious move. The exact same thing applies for women who want to let their man be ganged by her and her friends. Would your man tell those girls to, “Piss off” if they tried to make a surreptitious move, would your man then tell you about said move? You have a reverse gangbang and all your girlfriends are staying the night because you trust them, it’s midnight and so you give them a place to stay. Some how one of your ‘girlfriends’ sneaks to your man surreptitiously and wants more dick because she is still hungry, would your man be faithful? would he tell you? Exact same scenario for the guy, if one of the ‘bros’ was sleeping over would he try put his dick in your girls mouth, would she succumb and cheat or would she scream and punch the dick so hard that he may never be able to use it again. what would you as the relationship entity do? There are people who have a kink for cheating and having an affair, I’ve been contacted multiple times as an escort to participate in this fantasy.

Unfortunately so many of us would not remain faithful and would succumb to lust and cheat.

My best advice for experimenting with this kink as closed relationship is to become experienced with kink as a whole first, build an extremely high level of trust first where you know without any shadow of a doubt that you can trust each other. This might mean a few years of back & forth conversations to really establish what you both feel comfortable with, where you will do it, how you will do. Establish the trust that your dominant partner will lead the gang and keep it within the confines of said boundaries, establish the trust that your submissive will be loyal to your every command.

This is an extreme kink for a reason and as a man do you honestly believe you could still look at your partner(s) a week after taking a gang of cocks and say, “I love you” trusting in all your heart that she will be faithful? Do you as a woman have the self-control to respect what your man has just given you and scream if anyone dare cross your intimate boundaries, and promise to never go outside the relationship for the experience or singular dick?

Could you as the woman trust your man with your girlfriends over to not pull his pants down and accept the blow job that Tiffany is begging for in the kitchen? Could you as the man trust yourself not to seek out a tryst with Rebecca the plump blonde that your wife let be apart of the girl gang? The way she sucked your cock was nothing like you have had before, the way her pussy melted when she was on top was incredible. Could you as a woman trust yourself to tell the smoking hot model Derrick with ripped abs and a thick eight-inch cock to go shove it when he hit’s your DM’s trying his luck, Derrick was at the gangbang. Could you as the man trust your woman to never, ever, ever chase or accept another dick as long as long as you are together, after knowing she enjoyed six juicy dicks being rammed down her holes?

I think for most closed or monogamous relationships this kink may just have to be something you miss. How good are you? How loyal are you really? How well do you communicate? Because it would be like getting married while in a marriage, and most people can’t even handle the responsibilities of a normal marriage. If you are that one in a hundred million couple fantastic, I do believe that there are some couples that are not just for show and know how to get kinky.

Would I participate in a gangbang or reverse gangbang?

I think that being a part of a consensual gangbang would be fun. About a year ago I was offered to be a part of a filmed gangbang by some respected industry workers, but I declined because I was not interested in the filming part. I don’t know about a reverse gangbang. Because to really enthrall myself in the experience I would have to be with a gang that I trust a great deal, it’s one thing to just have a gang of ass & titties around you, but to ultimately submit to every woman’s commands & wishes; damn.

Would I participate in a gangbang or reverse gangbang while in a relationship?

I do not wish to answer that question. There are always three sides to a coin.

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog, I hope that you have learnt something or at the very now know that there are normal everyday people who enjoy this kink in a safe, sane, and consensual way. Stay safe in your exploration of sex; educate yourself on the kinks or sex you wish to explore; learn about yourself, even just reading a blog such as this may turn you on or turn you off something; be consensual; try not to judge; and be respectful.

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Warm regards,

L. Soule.